We have all dealt with some form of sadness. After all, we are only human. Things may happen to us that are not fair. It is a harsh truth to know you do not have control over everything. However, a sadness that persists for more than two weeks means you are struggling with something heavier- depression.
The World Health Organization says that 300 million adults and children struggle with depression. There are many varying symptoms of depression such as-
- Being more sad than usual
- Hopelessness
- Easily irritable
- Less interest in appearance or basic hygiene
- No care in favorite activities or people
- Eating more or less than usual
- Talks of suicide
With the millions of people out there experiencing depression, there is a chance that you know someone with depression. You may be confused about what to do with many questions to follow. What do I say? Do I even say anything? Do I stay out of it? What can I do? Depression is not something to “snap out of” or force the unhappiness out of someone. Just being there for that person makes a difference.
You can help someone when they have depression through validation and encouragement.
Educate Yourself
Before you help someone with depression, it is important to learn more about it. You can ask your friend what exactly they are dealing with instead of making assumptions.
You can also do your own research whether it is online or through your public library. Learn all about the symptoms, possible causes, how to get diagnosed, and treatment options. Once you understand the general symptoms, your friend’s story will become more familiar to you.
Have a Talk
Once you have a good idea of what depression is, talk to your friend about your concern. Start with a question like, “You have been acting a little down lately. Is there something going on?”
Keep in mind that your friend may be looking for a good listener compared to an advice giver. Let your friend talk to you about what is going on with them and ask questions to show you are listening. Validate their feelings by saying, “I am really sorry you are going through this.” If your friend does not feel like venting to you about their issues, just let them know that you care as many opportunities as you get.
Practice Patience
As your friend takes on treatment methods through therapy and medication, do not expect their behavior to rapidly change. Treatment takes time and patience. Take everything one day at a time.
Your friend will be experiencing a mix of good days and bad days. If your friend is experiencing a good day, do not assume their depression is “cured.” It is also important not to get frustrated when bad days happen. It does not mean your friend’s progress is not improving. It is going to take longer than a few weeks for your friend to be in a better place with their mood.
Look Out for Yourself
It is natural to want to dedicate every waking moment to your friend who is struggling and to tend for them whenever they need you. However, you will not be able to look out for your friend’s needs if you do not look after your own.
Setting boundaries with your friends will allow you to get the “me time” you have been looking for while still being there for your friend. You can let your friend know when you are available to talk so that both of your needs are met.
Depression can be very challenging to tackle alone. Your friend should feel very lucky to have someone like you in their corner. By letting your friend know you are there for them and are ready to listen, you are doing your part as a good friend. If you are in need of more help, please contact us to schedule an appointment.
